The hate you give f*cks everyone 

according to Tupac. This episode is to remind you how you’re connected with the world around you and how your decisions and actions impacts every single part of life. Let me know about your thoughts or questions after watching. I’d love to hear them.

There is this phrase that says: “When America sneezes Europe  (and the rest of the world) catches the cold.” According to a blog I read on BBC’s website, this phrase originated during The Wall Street Crash of 1929. Whether this is true, I don’t know because I also found another source attributing it to an Austrian Prince who said: “when France sneezes, the whole of Europe catches the cold” … meaning Europe is heavily influenced by the french people. 

I kept on searching through the internet and, As a matter of fact, I found that there are all kinds of varieties of this phrase. One of them that caught my attention … that I thought was funny was this one that says: “when America sneezes things get a little feverish in South Africa”. South Africa of all places! What’s interesting to me is how this phrase is trying to convey the idea that we are all connected and related and that nothing exists by itself or on its own. 

If you have kids then you’ve probably experienced this before. When my youngest was about a year old, we use to take him to the day care. Every week, my son or one of us at home would have something. One of us at home would get sick and it’s not because we didn’t take good care of ourselves…that we weren’t eating properly or anything in that sense. As a matter of fact, we did everything to prevent sickness and made sure our health was on point but, somehow, someway, someone got sick. It still happened because some kid or teacher at the daycare managed to infect everything and everyone at the day care. If you’re a parent then you probably know this…, almost all (if not all) of the nurseries are pools of germs. Sending your kids to the daycare is almost the same as purposely standing in some infectious sneeze of someone. 

Here’s the thing. We often think that we’re separate. That what is happening out there has nothing to do with us, but when you look more closely to see what is really going on out there … you notice that we are much more interconnected than we think. We’re all in this shared human condition. 

I watched this movie the other day…its title is: The Hate U Give. The movie is about this young girl on her path to find her own voice and how and why she should stand up for something. Why she should stand up for what is right according to her views. Great movie and I think everyone should go and see it because it really shows how even the littlest things are connected to the rest of society. It also made clear to me what Tupac meant with his THUG LIFE tattoo. Accordingly, Thug Life stands for “The Hate U Give Little Infants Fucks Everybody.” Now, back in the days, as a teenager listening to Tupac, I thought it was to show how gangsta he was. I really thought it was a sign among the gangsters but growing up and getting to understand him better I got to know what it really meant to him. What it meant to him in a nutshell was: what society gives the youth will have its effect on all of us. 

As we live our lives, whether we’re at work achieving high results for the company we work for, performing in-front of a huge crowd as a top artist, or doing some ordinary thing at home, we’re not always aware of the effect we have on the rest of the world around us. It’s probably even hard to understand how you’re involved but what we see happening in an other place, in an other time has a lot to do with our decisions and acts now. You might not agree with me but each and everyone of us is responsible for the world we live in.

Now, I’m not talking blame here but I want you to become aware of is your involvement in what’s happening around you. You know I’m all about spirituality and transcendence. So, I want you to stop and take a look around you. Take a look and see all the cause and effects. Notice, as life is happening, how everything is connected, and how everyone has control over something or someone. Nothing exists by itself. We are all connected and related. All of us collectively contribute to the world in which we live.

My oldest son is ten years now and he won a debate battle yesterday at school. At the debate about bullying, one of his arguments was: “the sidekick-bully (or friend of the bully) is just as responsible as the big bully himself because of his lack of responsibility to steer things the other way.” I thought that was smart and wise thing to say. 

Now I’m not saying that you should jump out of your seat and start living different or go out and take the world’s problems on your shoulders. I just want you to recognize how involved you are. Know about your involvement. How you may or may not participate in the things happening around you. How you’re connected spiritually. How indifferent or caring you are in your participation.

When it comes to participation some of us get giddy about it…but it doesn’t have to be that difficult. It can be as easy as just recognizing your negative thoughts, letting go of them, letting go of those negative words or harmful actions that (in)directly disadvantages others. It’s as easy as covering yourself from a spray of sneeze or rethinking the things you do out of habit or tradition. Just know that nothing exists by itself. We are all connected and related. All of us collectively contribute to the world in which we live.